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It's okay to grow. You are allowed to out-grow people. You're allowed to change as a person, to redirect your life and to change your mind about who you want to assosciate with. It's okay to admit that 'this isn't working out, and I am sorry, and wish you the best'. It's okay to set boundaries and then to act upon them, when broken or trampled.

It took me so many years to realise and accept this. That I'm worthy of boundaries, and that I am allowed to grow, evolve, change and to drop the veil, the pretense and the shroud. That I don't have to try make things work, if it is hurting me. It took me so, so long to realise that I, and others, are worth better - and that my honesty to myself, about myself and others, matters. People are not entitled to hurt me, with excuses of ownership titles, "you're my [---], you have to forgive me, you must do what I say!". You don't owe people your happiness and your peace.

It is okay to treasure the good memories for what they were at the time, when things weren't so complicated. It's okay to reflect on the bad with sadness, or other emotions. It's okay to feel. It's healthy to deal with it and the emotios evoked.

You don't have to trade your autheticity to keep the peace. We're worth more than that.